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CHECKLIST What you need to take when you leave
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Safety When Preparing to Leavev
Always try to take your children with you or make
arrangements to leave them with someone safe. v
Determine who would let you stay with them or be willing
to lend you money. v
Leave money, an extra set of keys, copies of important
documents, and extra clothes with someone you trust. v
Open a savings account in your own name to start to
establish or increase your independence. v
Keep the shelter numbers close at hand along with other
important numbers. v
Remember – leaving your batterer can be the most
dangerous time. |
Safety In Your Homev
Inform Neighbors and landlord that your partner no longer
lives with you and that they should call the police if
they see your abuser near your home. v
Rehearse a safety plan with your children. v
Inform you children’school or day care about who has
permission to pick up your children. (Give them a copy of
your restraining order.) v
Change/add locks on your doors and windows as soon as
possible. v
Change your telephone number. |
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Safety On
the Job and In Public
v
Decide who at work you will inform of your situation.
This should include office or building security (provide
a picture of your batterer if possible). v
Arrange to have someone screen your telephone calls if
possible. v
Devise a safety plan for when you leave work. Have
someone escort you to your car, bus or train. Use a
variety of routes to go home if possible. Think about
what you would do if something happened while going home. If You Are a Teen in a Violent Relationshipv
If things in your relationship don’t feel right to
you, talk about it with someone you trust. v
Decide which relative, friend, teacher, or police officer
you can go to in an emergency. v
Contact a domestic violence advocate at Domestic Violence
Solutions at 964-5245 to learn how to obtain a
restraining order and make a safety plan. v
Remember – you should never have to feel afraid in
your relationship! v
NO means NO! |
Your Safety
and Emotional Health
v
If you are thinking of returning to a potentially abusive
situation, discuss an alternative plan with someone you
trust. v
If you have to communicate with your partner, determine
the safest way to do so. Have someone with you. v
Have positive thoughts about yourself and be assertive
with others about your needs. v
Plan to attend a support group to gain support from
others and learn more about yourself and the relationship.
Contact Domestic Violence Solutions at 964-5245 for
support groups. v
Decide who you can call to give you the support you need. v
No one deserves to be abused. |
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